Valentine’s Quiz

Joey at Joeyfullystated  answered some questions posted on her Facebook page and challenged others to answer on their statuses too.  I’ve decided to post mine in My Blog.

In honor of Valentine’s Day, all couples: Make this your status for fun and answer honestly.

Who’s older?
He is 8 years older than I am.
Who was interested first?
It was a blind date.  He fell for me instantly.  I wasn’t far behind.

How long have you been together? 
34 years – 30 legal.

Very happily married.   Would not swap him for anything.
More sarcastic? 
Probably me.  Yes – definitely me.

Who makes the most mess? 
He says me – He’s Obsessive Compulsive.

Who has more tattoos? 
We don’t do tattoos.  He is totally anti tattoos – daughters beware – don’t bring a tatooed man to meet Dad!

Better singer? 
Me but neither of us can really sing!
Hogs the remote?

He’s not typical male in that regard – neither of us hog it but I think he prefers me to be in charge of the remote.

Better driver? 
I think it’s me. But he won’t let me drive.  He thinks my driving stinks.  Nobody else complains about my driving – It’s a control thing.  He needs to be in charge.  It’s a boy thing.  He had to let me drive while he was recovering from surgery.  It gave me great pleasure that he couldn’t do anything about it.   It was very hard for him.
Spends the most?
Did I mention he likes to be in control?   He spends the most because he is in charge of the bills. BUT He is a generous man and never denies me anything – so maybe it’s I who makes him spend too much?  No that’s not it.  We both enjoy the good things in life.

This is an American word for cleverer.  Smart in South African means how smartly you dress – in that case – definitely me.

He thought he was cleverer but actually we’re equal.  Many years ago we did a General Knowledge test with 100 Trivial Pursuit Cards.  We got a dead equal score – But some things I knew, he didn’t and some things he knew, I didn’t.  So we have different areas of clever.  But don’t tell him – I actually think he is cleverer than I.

Most common sense?
Well – I think probably him – but I also have a good deal.  He is just very practical and I am a bit of a dreamer.

What are your middle names? 
Mine – Mary Edwina  His – Mills
Whose siblings do you see most often?
His – He only has one sister and they’re very close so we see her whenever we are in Cape Town.  I keep in touch with mine but don’t see them nearly often enough.

Do you have any children together?
No biological children together. But we both raised his two girls and my one. We also helped his oldest raise her two babies who are now 18 and 19.  Nobody is allowed to say they’re not my real kids.  Our three girls are sisters – not step-sisters.  His grandchildren are my grandchildren – not step-grandchildren.   When we told our grandsons the ‘truth’ about their ancestry – Jay said, “Lucky for you, hey Gran!”
Did you go to the same school? 

Who is the most sensitive? 
I asked him – He said he was because he can’t handle pain.  But he says I’m more emotionally sensitive.

Where do you eat out most as a couple? 
Shipwreck Coffee Shop – usually for breakfast because at our age we don’t do late nights!  Haha that’s a joke.  We also do dinners at Seagulls or other restaurants in the area from time to time. Very occasionally we get a takeaway pizza from Bella Luna – they do gluten free bases.

Where is the farthest you two have traveled together? 
We live at the southern tip of Africa – that’s far away.  No seriously – Tasmania, Australia in terms of distance.  But the distance we’ve travelled in life far exceeds that.

Who has the worst temper? 

Who does the cooking?
Both of us.  But he will tell you that he does all the cooking. He loves cooking but when he cooks I usually help.   But he can cook alone.   He does cook breakfast most often.   But I have just learned to cook a mean omelette – silly me – I shouldn’t have!

Who is more social?
Him – but I am also quite social.   We both have lots of couple friends and own friends.
Who is the neat freak?
He’s OC.  But I have to be neat to satisfy his OC

Who is the most stubborn? 
He does see reason but he can be stubborn – I try not to be stubborn unless I know I am absolutely right.

Who hogs the bed? 
He says it’s me.  It must be because I don’t have a problem with him in my space.

Who wakes up earlier? 
Me but he doesn’t have a problem getting up early if he has to.

Where was your first date?
The Round House, Camps Bay. It was a blind date.   We’ve never been back! We will one day.

Who has the bigger family? 
I have a bigger biological family. He only has a sister, brother-in-law, niece and nephew besides our own kids and grandkids  BUT his late first wife had a huge family who we still keep up with.  I am so lucky because they have accepted me as one of the family too. They are the warmest, kindest people on earth.  My family are just as warm and kind.
Do you get flowers often? 
I used to.  Now we grow them in the garden.

Who does the laundry?
Who’s better with the computers?
Me – He is extremely technical but can’t do the day to day stuff on computers. So he yells for me to help him.
Who drives when you are together?
He has to be almost dying before he’ll let me drive.

Who picks where you go to dinner?
Both.  He suggests we go out and I always agree. There aren’t too many places we can go around here but whatever we choose is pretty good.   We also entertain at home from time to time. And we have weekend visitors quite frequently.


Share your World 13 February

Here are my answers to this weeks questions in Cee’s Share Your World

Do you sleep with your sheets tucked in or out?
I have a fitted sheet over the mattress and a duvet on top – no top sheet – so no tucked in sheets or blankets.   In the summer I usually sleep, wrapped in a sarong, on top of the duvet.   Sometimes when caravanning in the Kgalagadi or Kruger I wet the sarong, lay a towel on the bed and sleep with the wrung out sarong wrapped around me.  It’s the only way to keep cool.  In winter I sleep in warm pyjamas and have an extra rug on the bed.

Have you stolen a street sign before?
I have no idea how you can steal a street sign.

Do you cut out coupons but then never use them?
I have done in the past thinking that I might use them.  I realised early on in life that I’m not that thrifty.  I forget the coupons are there and just buy as I need.  I am not a bargain hunter and hate sales. I just don’t like rummaging through a mess of products trying to find something cheaper than usual.  Presentation is important for me. If I spot something I like on a shelf or rail then I buy it if I want it.  I never go looking for stuff to buy just because it’s cheap.  Black Friday doesn’t do it for me.
Do you have freckles?
There are some brown speckles on my arms and legs and just two that I can see on my face. But mainly I see laughter lines and wrinkles.

Optional Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up?

I am grateful for the rain that has fallen giving some relief to the drought.  We need more so bring it on.

I am looking forward to The Marlin Competition which started yesterday and goes on until the end of this weekend. There are 27 boats, some independent and some from different clubs competing.   They are creating quite a vibe here in Struisbaai.


This is how men like to be “@Work”




Share your world 6 February 2017

Here are my answers to Cee’s Share Your World 6 February 2017

Regarding your fridge, is it organized or a mess inside?

Funny you should ask because if I’d read this question this morning my answer might have been quite different.

Of course I like my fridge to be neat and organized but for the past few days it has been in a bit of a state so today I sorted out the chaos!   I threw out left over food from last Monday’s anniversary party, poured mayonnaise from an almost empty jar into an almost full one, checked to see that the milk wasn’t past its use by date and put veggies into containers instead of leaving them in their punnets and plastic wrappings.   I didn’t know this was going to be a question today so don’t have a before photograph – but here is what my refrigerator looks like after its clean out this morning!


Well the above is how my fridge looked when I started this post but then my adopted grandson, Sam and his friend, Daniel who are staying with us for a few days, came back from a night time fishing trip with four geelbek and a skipjack so they now have pride of place till tomorrow morning when they can be cleaned.   Guess what we will be having for dinner tomorrow!


Sam (left) and Daniel had a great evening out on Sam’s boat Red Head


Lovely fresh fish   

Do you prefer your food separated or mixed together?

Depending on what the meal is – I like each vegetable to have  its own place on the plate but I eat them together with the meat or fish – a bit of fish and a bit of veggie on one fork is the proper way to eat isn’t it?  I do not eat one food group at a time – first the peas, then the carrots and leave the best till last – that’s crazy.  I like mixing the flavours.

Sushi of course is fish, vegetable and rice rolled together in a sheet of seaweed and I love that.

Do you prefer reading coffee table books (picture), biographies, fiction, non-fiction, educational?

If it is printed I read it.   But if the first few pages don’t grab me I have no qualms about setting it aside.   I like well written fiction. My favourite authors are Anne Tyler, Chaim Potok, Bryce Courtenay, Barbara Trapido, Mavis Cheek,Maeve Binchy, Anita Shreve.  I also love books by South African authors about South African life.   Michael Heyns, Rayda Jacobs, Pamela Jooste and Maire Fischer have written some amazing fiction.  I am reading a book by Deon Meyer’s Icarus at the moment.

I have/had a huge collection of coffee table/reference books.  I had to give most of them away when we sold our big house in Cape Town – it broke my heart but there’s no room for them in Struisbaai. I still have too many.

Close your eyes. Listen to your body. What part of your body is seeking attention? What is it telling you?

I’m thirsty – time to have a lovely cold glass of water.   If I don’t drink enough water my blood pressure drops and then I wonder why I’m so exhausted.






The Sunshine Blogger Award

Thank you Fiona and Dan for nominating me for the Sunshine Blogger Award.  It has taken me a while to respond as I can’t think of 11 people to nominate so I’ll just post my answers for now and try to nominate later.


Fiona and Dan are an adventurous young couple who make the most of life and write about their amazing adventures. Fiona and Dan’s Blog

Rules of the Sunshine Blogger Award:

  • Thank the person who nominated you and link back to their blog.
  • Answer the eleven questions set by the person who nominated you.
  • Nominate eleven other blogs and give them eleven questions to answer.
  • List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo in your post.

What made you start blogging?

I have kept a diary on and off for many years and when I heard about blogging I thought it was a good way of sharing my writing.

If money was no object, what would you do?

I would travel even more than I do now and I would give huge support to conservation projects.

What do you prefer Marine or Terrestrial environments?

I am very concerned about Marine environments and find marine life fascinating but I do not like boats and so prefer my eco touring to be terrestrial.  I love birds and wildlife.

If you were kind and you knew then what you know now. Would you have chosen a different profession and what would it be?

I have been so rewarded in my profession that I can’t think of anything else I would have done besides teach.   Once I joked in the staffroom – “In my next life, I will teach in an all girls’ school.” And a colleague exclaimed – In your next life you want to teach???  And the answer is YES – go figure.

Do you prefer sweet or savory?

I guess I would have to say savoury.   But I do like a bit of sweetness now  and then – I avoid sugar as much as possible but when I indulge in a treat it’s usually something with chocolate in it.  Lemon Meringue pie and cheesecake are also good.

If you could save one animal on the planet which animal would it be?

The  creature I would definitely choose is the Bee because if she were not saved all life on the planet would end.

Favourite music genre and/or band?

I have a few favourites – music that is easy to dance to and music that is pleasant to listen to in the background.  I do not like ‘intrusive’ music.

My favourites are – Barbara Streisand, Neil Diamond, Chris de Burgh,

If you could earn a salary from blogging, would you do it?

No, because then I would have to commit to a regular contribution, I think.  I am at the stage of my life when I want to be flexible and spontaneous.

What are your views and thoughts on global population numbers

There are too many people in the world and we need to educate people to plan their families carefully.

Where do you live now? If you had to move to a foreign country where would you go to?

I live in Stuisbaai at the Southern Tip of Africa. It is a small town, removed from the hustle and bustle of city life and all the dangers associated with most South African urban areas.  It is like living in a different country.   If I had to move I would choose Australia as I think I could adapt to their lifestyle.  But I would rather stay here as I could not bear to be too far from the African bush.

When was the last time you spent the entire day without your cellphone and/or iPad?

In most parts of the Kgalagadi it is impossible to get cell phone signal and connecting to the internet is impossible.  I was there in March 2016 and spent many days without cell/iPad.  The only other time I separate myself from my devices is if I’m too sick to care and that’s almost never.



Share Your World 30 January

Here are my answer’s to Cee’s Share your world 30 January 2017

What is the most incredible natural venue that you’ve ever seen in person?

I am privileged enough to be able to visit many incredible natural venues in my own country and neighbouring African countries.   It’s the birds and wildlife that attract us to visit over and over again.  But the most unusual natural venue I visited in 2015 was Sossusvlei which is a salt and clay pan surrounded by high red dunes, located in the southern part of the Namib Desert, in the Namib-Naukluft National Park of Namibia. Those magnificent Red Dune are mind boggling.


We climbed to the top of this one


We took an hour and a half flight over the dunes and looked down on our lodgings – our hut is the first one in the row this side of the main buildings.

How many siblings do you have? What’s your birth order? 

I have two brothers and a sister.  I am number two. Big Brother is three years older than I am. My sister is two years younger and Baby Brother is seven years younger than I.

If you were a shoe, what kind would you be and why?

Well I would not choose to be a shoe!  But I love boots – so that’s what I’ll choose as long as they’re made from real leather and don’t have killer heels.

What is the strangest/weirdest thing you have ever eaten?

Several years ago we stayed at Lokotula Lodge, Victoria Falls in Zimbabwe – another phenomenal natural venue.


Earl and Me with The Victoria Falls thundering behind us – September 2002.

On our first evening we ate at The Boma which is an area enclosing guests under the glittering African sky. There were sumptuous braaied (barbequed) meats to choose from the buffet and we tried a whole variety including warthog – you can read my story about that here.

As we were wandering around choosing our dishes one of the servers said, “Would you like some mopani worm?”  “No thank you,” I replied.  “But you must,”he insisted and not wanting to offend him both my hubby and I swallowed one each.   It really wasn’t bad but not something I’d rush back to have any time soon!   Well, we continued with our meal and when one of the hostesses came to enquire how we’d enjoyed the food, we told her that it had all been delicious.   “Did you have mopani worms?”she asked.   We replied proudly that we had and she promptly wrote out a certificate for each of us.  So we have proof!


Optional Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up? 

This week I am grateful for my precious husband, the wonderful friends we have made in our new home, Struisbaai and of course for the family and friends in Cape Town and the rest of the world too.


Young and in love – On our Wedding Day – 1987-01-30


Still in love thirty years later – 2017-01-30

We don’t have many friends in Struisbaai but last night we invited them all to help us celebrate our thirtieth wedding anniversary. Looking back on our years together brought home to us how much we have survived and how much we have been blessed.   They have certainly been dramatic, exciting and adventurous years and we would not have changed a thing.

We don’t plan ahead so I am just looking forward to the surprises that are bound to happen in the coming week.


Share your world 23 January 2017

Here are my answers to Cee’s Share Your World 23 January 2017

Do you prefer juice or fruit?

Fruit – I have always loved all kinds of fruit.  My grandparents had a lovely garden with a variety of fruit trees in it and we were free to pick as much as we liked. Perhaps that is why I love fruit so much. I don’t drink much fruit juice or any sweet drinks but if I do guava is my juice of choice.

Did you grow up in a small or big town? Did you like it?

The city of Cape Town was an hour’s train ride from the small seaside village where I grew up and what was there not to love?  We had the beach, the mountain and the safety of the times.We had freedom – we’d walk or ride bikes everywhere on our own, play unsupervised on the beach and climb the mountain in kids only groups. It was an idyllic place to grow up.


Fish Hoek –  where I grew up

If you were to paint a picture of your childhood, what colors would you use?

Bright and beautiful ones -blinding white for the sea-sand, sparkling blue for the sky, emerald green for the grass and trees.   The sun shone a  lot – but of course there were the grey, rainy days but they were filled with siblings and cousins playing board games and joining the dogs in front of a roaring log fire at Granny’s house

Ways to Relax List: Make a list of what relaxes you and helps you feel calm.

  • Taking a long walk on the beach
  • Reading a good book
  • Journalling
  • Doing a crossword or Sudoku
  • Having a good coffee with hubby or friend at a friendly coffee shop.

Optional Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up? 

I am grateful that Earl has been feeling well this week. I am looking forward to entertaining friends next week.


Share Your World Week #3

There are seven questions to answer for Cee’s Share Your World this week

Do you sleep with your closet doors open or closed

Usually closed – But I don’t know why.

Do you take the shampoos and conditioner bottles from hotel?

No – I prefer to use my own brand – so don’t even use the ones provided.

What is your usual bedtime

It varies – if I’m really tired I can crash at 8 but usually I put the light out at 11.

Do you like to use post-it notes?

Not a lot.  I use my phone for reminders. But I do have a shopping list on the fridge.

When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone on paper?

I can’t remember.  I used to write letters quite regularly in the 80s

Any phobias?

Aviophobia– but I’m getting over it.  Also Tachophobia – I tend to make sure I don’t go on things that race at breakneck speeds.

How tall are you?

165cm  or five feet five inches


Optional Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up? 

I am grateful that nothing dreadful happened last week and that my husband’s fainting spell did not mean anything sinister.  No intervention required 🙂

I am looking forward to having some downtime and just chilling in beautiful Struisbaai.