Can’t Say No.

Today I’m taking up the Stream of Consciousness Saturday challenge.   This is the prompt:-   Take the title of the book you’re currently reading or the one sitting closest to you when you’re ready to write your SoCS post and base your post on the title only. I’m not asking for a book review or a synopsis, just whatever the title itself brings to mind. For example, Gone Girl makes me remember the first time I left home to live by myself. Or Lord of the Rings makes me think of all the rings I’ve owned in my life. Enjoy!”

I glanced across at my bookshelf and the first book that I saw was “The Girl Who Couldn’t Say No”


You should learn to say ‘No’ I’ve been told often enough by well-meaning friends.  But I say – Why?   I like saying yes.  I like being available to my friends and family.  If I can be of help to them, then why not?  Of course I’m not going to let anybody walk over me – well maybe sometimes but those people who use and abuse me don’t last long in my life.

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I believe that where there’s a need somebody has to meet it.   And if one can – then why say no.   My kids in the past often complained about people not reciprocating  – I’d tell them – In this world you get givers and takers – we’re the givers and we’re the happier for it.   Be self-sufficient so you won’t  have to rely on others reciprocating.

I do not regret very much about my life.  There have been tough times – but I say those were learning curves – what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.   Think about it – if you say no – you lose out on so much.  Saying yes gives pleasure.  If you give grudgingly you dip out on that pleasure. So I say whatever you do for others do it without expecting anything in return.  The reward  is the pleasure you get from doing something for a person in need.  Most times it is appreciated but when it isn’t don’t become bitter about it – move on.

Now in my retirement years I’m indulging more of my own needs – and it’s wonderful – but I still like to say YES to friends and family – because I love them and they bring me joy.  I like being the girl who can’t say NO.

Keep Calm no




6 thoughts on “Can’t Say No.

  1. I’ve been told I need to learn to say NO more too. It’s exhausting trying to do it all. Then, when I need help, it seems no one is around (they are too busy) It’s tough learning balance. I’m sorry, I can’t. (oh, that doesn’t sit well with them – whatya mean? You’re always our go to person.)

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    • Know just how you feel. But I still think it’s better to give than to receive 🙂 I’m getting the hang of taking care of number 1 now though.


  2. Excellent post! I had to learn to say no. I view it as reserving my yes’s energy. I agree that our lives are enriched by giving and I do not require reciprocation. Measuring generosity isn’t particularly enlightening.


  3. I like what you have said. It IS difficult to say ‘no’. But one thing in my favor is I don’t expect reciprocation. What I do, I do because I am who I am. That’s my philosophy. 🙂


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